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Myspace and Facebook are fun sites.  You can listen to music, talk to friends, fill out pointless survey bulletins. But they can be dangerous when it comes to dating.

The other day I met one of my friends by accident while out running errands. We decide to go get some lunch. Before we can even order our food she starts crying and telling me her boyfriend doesn’t love her anymore. After five minutes of wading through the sobbing, I finally find out why she thinks this. Her boyfriend “de-friended” her on Myspace…

To make things worse, her boyfriend was out of town for the weekend and couldn’t be reached right away. So for a day and a half she’s crying about this. When he gets back, he’s barraged with angry phone messages and his girlfriend crying on his answering machine. So, of course, he tries to call her. He tries for two days before she finally answers because she wasn’t speaking to him since she was trying to “move on”.

So he’s relieved when he gets a hold of her, but doesn’t know why she thinks they’re broken up. They get together to hash out the whole situation. Finally it comes out that the boyfriend accidentally clicked on her when he was cleaning out other friends, and doesn’t in any way want to leave her.

All that just because of an accidental click. How many times have you accidentally clicked something you didn’t want to? Exactly.

Now, the severity of this situation was probably perpetuated by their personalities, but this is far from the first Myspace dating disaster I’ve heard.

Another common problem related to dating and these sites is jealousy. The story usually goes girl is dating guy, girl checks guys Myspace page, sees a different cute girl posting comments on guys page, becomes jealous and breaks up with guy. Sometimes it’s the guy that does the jealousy and breaking up part.

The problem with these sites is that someone’s past is readily available on these sites. You can see what they talk about, what they have done, and past pictures. But it’s not the present situation, and you have no context when looking at these things.

Maybe, the person posting stuff on your boyfriend/girlfriend’s page is just a friend. Maybe, they are cheating on you. Maybe, what looks like flirting to you is actually an inside joke between two old, platonic friends. Maybe, you should ask.

It’s sad to see grown adults turned into highschool freshman when it comes to what happens on these sites.

When I was young, my mom always told me “Don’t believe everything you hear”. Well, don’t believe everything you “hear” on the internet either.